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merrywise:

tanacetum-vulgare:

darkarfs:

I feel like there are a million people who need to understand this.

wow this breakdown is actually super helpful to think about

ā€œI’m just really bluntā€ no u r just an ass.

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An image of text arranged in a table. The left column is labeledĀ ā€œBrutal Honestyā€. The right column is labeledĀ ā€œLoving Honestyā€.

Brutal Honesty: Makes only the truth-teller feel good.
Loving Honesty: Is difficult for both speaker and recipient.

Brutal Honesty: Assumes stupidity on the part of the recipient.
Loving Honesty: Understands that the recipient is intelligent and can make the best decisions about his/her life.

Brutal Honesty: Isn’t necessarily vital for the recipient to know.
Loving Honesty: Is vital for the recipient to know.

Brutal Honesty: Is usually expressed spontaneously.
Loving Honesty: Is usually expressed after a great deal of thought.

Brutal Honesty: Is said out of irritation with the other person.
Loving Honesty: Is offered out of concern for the other’s well being.

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